The War Against Men Part I

Perhaps one of the biggest problems that we as a nation and as an overall society have is the breakdown of the family. This is something that I have said for some time and something that anyone can witness should they look around them. The rise of single mothers to children born out of wedlock, the ratchet behavior of parents and those around them to their children (oh there is an Ether in your future), or just go to the Walmart to see the insanity of what passes for family there on any given day (Sorry Walmart, you save me money but for some reason you are a magnet to a number of WTF moments).

So much of what ails our communities and thus our overall society is this breakdown of the family structure and primarily that men have been pushed out of the family. There is a gentleman that I look up to that made a great observation and wrote on a Facebook status regarding this topic. I like to think I am somewhat of a decent wordsmith but I am highly dubious that I could have summed it up better:

"I'm bothered by how many men are seen with their kids on the weekend. Years ago we saw families out together but now it seems to be mothers during the week and fathers on the weekend.

Not that spending time with your kids is bad, but the reality is the majority of them are divorcees with weekend visitation. A common theme these days and a solemn reminder to the erosion of the bedrock of this nation - the family unit.

What house can stand when the foundation crumbles? Surely ours will collapse and how great that crash will be for such a rich and mighty home as this."

Let's think about this. The welfare system does not encourage the men to be at home with the women and children. Should he be there the women risks losing any entitlements. The Family Court systems do little to help the situation with the tilted judgments in child custody cases towards women and the incarceration of men who cannot make child support despite their best efforts in many cases. The lack of accountability of that same child support to ensure it does go to the children. There is the selfishness of the individual that chooses to break up the family rather then work on what needs to be worked on within the home. Then there is popular culture which in effect has a made a parody at best of men in the home.

The idea of what a man is has also been torn apart to the extent where any idea of the classic definition of a man is seen as some type of evolutionary throw back. Aside from the men out of the home, even the men in the home are seen as a joke. Their authority usurped and seen as clueless or absentminded. Doubt me? Feel free to check out almost any sitcom on Nickelodeon. It would almost seem that today's version of what a man is is not longer someone like Ward Clever, John Wayne, or Clint Eastwood but rather Pajama Boy.

It is almost too easy to point fingers at what the source of this is but in truth that is not going to do much. There will be and should be a time for finger pointing if for no other reason to prevent and fight against those that have started our families down this dangerous road. With such a monumental task before us let's all the men reading this get up and look in the mirror and start there.

For those of us in the home, men MUST reaffirm their bonds to their families. Makes themselves indispensable to the family unit. Not just in the financial sense but in the way that each and everyone of us in our families are key to each other. To establish our authority as the Man in the House, not in the role of dominance by force but in the role of dominance of us willing to make the tough choices that benefit our families.

For those of us that are not in the home (personally, I wear both hats), we MUST to fight for the rights that we have as fathers. To be relevant once again to our children and not been seen as an extra wallet to our ex. To teach our sons what it means to be a man and to teach our daughters the ideal of the man they should accept at a bare minimum.

As Men we need to learn to be the example to the world and not the butt of some poorly worded joke.

We hear over and over again from the left about this so-called "War Against Women" but that is little more then unsubstantiated conjecture at its worst. The stark reality of the world we live in today is that there is a War Against Men. And we stand up and retake our rightful places with our families and in society as whole or least we be seen throughout history as the first to fall in this long line of dominoes.